Moments That Matter

Over the last month, I have completed several personality and conflict-style inventories: Myers-Briggs, the Enneagram, Style Matters, Minnesota Multiphasic Personality Inventory (MMPI), and a couple of others. I completed these inventories for several reasons. 1. As part of a process to obtain a new ministerial license. 2. To meet school and class requirements. 3. For comparable data to better understand how my work, “Beyond the Wall,” aligns with these inventories. We can di

Every Halloween, we walk the streets among strangers, projecting an image and pretending to be someone we are not. There is something exciting about becoming someone else. We can be frightening, funny, powerful, mysterious, or completely unrecognizable. We can step outside ourselves without fear of judgment because, after all, it’s just a costume. We disguise ourselves, assume another identity, and walk confidently toward doors of opportunity, hoping to receive sweet, savory

The more divided we become, the more I hear friends and others speak of their anxiety. Some have begun therapy because of the uncertainty and fear they are experiencing. There is no doubt we are living in tumultuous times. But I must ask: What are we afraid of? And how much of your life are you willing to let fear decide? On either side of this divide are PEOPLE—with opinions, beliefs, traditions, hope, and resolve. Yet fear seems to trump their existence. On either side, we

There comes a defining moment in every life when we discover that what has carried us this far can no longer take us where we were created to go. The realization rarely arrives with drama. More often, it emerges in quiet moments of honesty. We begin to recognize that while our circumstances may have changed, our thinking has remained remarkably the same. We have inherited conclusions we never examined, accepted limitations we never questioned, and repeated conversations with

At some point in life, without even realizing it, most of us stop expressing who we are—and start protecting whom we’ve become. It doesn’t happen all at once. There’s no announcement. No defining moment. Just small adjustments. You hold your tongue instead of speaking your truth. You laugh when something doesn’t feel funny. You agree when something doesn’t feel right. And over time, those moments stack. What began as awareness turns into caution. Caution then becomes habit, a

The author uses real-life examples and practical advice to help readers recognize when they are simply following the crowd and how to take steps toward authentic living.